They say we make it look easy because it is.

My fiancé and I have always stood by the perspective that, so long as we choose eachother to walk through whatever hardship life brings us, then our obligation to ourselves is to not take one second for granted. To make the most of every bit of the time we get to have together. Our obligation to one another is to do all that we can with any opportunity that arises, to be each other’s light while it’s dark. I support him, he supports me, we support each other in all aspects of life. So no matter how rough or stressful things get we know we have each other.

That is what makes every bit of maintaining a healthy and lasting relationship through his prison sentence so easy, every bit of these loney nights bearable, every bit of the weight on my shoulders less heavy, because when he gets on that phone, or I show up to our visits and his arms are around me, or the snail mail finally gets in - everything else going on around us melts away for that time and we pour every bit of our love into each other.

We’ve built such strong communication that even a disagreement is respected as a teaching moment. That the connection and chemistry between us stays as electrifying as our very first day. That knowing when and how I/he needs to pick up where I/he lacks is simple, keeping eachother focused and motivated on our goals is simple, doing the work it takes to continue to grow every day individually as well as husband and wife/mother and father is simple. Having the capability to pull laughter out of one another on the days we need to laugh the most is simple. Understanding our roles, expectations, and boundaries within a marriage is as as easy as, valuing, satisfying, and honouring them. Being together comes so naturally to us, it’s as if our souls have been learning each other for a millennium.

What I’m trying to say is, having someone offering you that much emotional safety is a blessing. God gave me the man I’ve been praying for and he is now the man I pray with, I will be forever thankful. I have a man who caters to my every need and fulfils my very desire. He prioritizes me in a way that I was once convinced is dying within today’s new world. He’s a protector and a provider, a storyteller and an educator. He is the strongest man I’ve ever known. His will and courage is so astounding that it ignites my own within me.

We compliment each other well him and I. We share the same morals and we strive for the same things out of life. Our parenting styles and love languages are equally balanced. Our relatable past experiences add to our bond and our differences makes it all the more interesting. We have an unwavering sexual appetite for one another and our personalities blend so nicely that it shouldn’t be anything but easy…

We were made for one another, it’s the only way I can make sense of it. We are in divine alignment.

D, my King… Lead me and I will follow you anywhere, I will stand by you through everything. There is no force on earth, above, or below that will keep me from you. I love you from a place where there is no space or time, in life and in death.